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I call on She Who (Sometimes) Gives And Saves Life with a Humble Plea:

Please.  I've had every other fucked up side effect.  I can't even tell the difference any more between the fatigue, depression, and general malaise that comes with my sleep disorder and the bone crushing exacerbation of fatigue, depression, and general malaise that comes from being poisoned by the wrong sedative.  Every fucking one.  So please, please let the fucked up side effect for this newest foray into Your Sacred Gifts be breast enlargement.  I need new bras anyway, and I'm used to the big boob back pain, and I absolutely can't be depressed and forgetful any more.  I'm taking this stuff so I can have a life. 

Yours in Devotion (or is it Exhaustion?),
P.
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I knew I trimmed my blog habits for a reason.  But I didn’t have a whole lot of work to do today yesterday, so I stumbled on this utter nonsense.

First of all, this doesn’t come close to a Swift Boat analogy, and it’s disingenuous for anyone to pretend that a group of bloggers who’ve announced their voting preferences and reasons for those preferences are in any way comparable to the hateful, mendacious, merciless campaign to trivialize Senator Kerry’s service to his country.  Second of all, NOT ALL PUMAS ARE FEMALE.  Funny how assuming all women lined up behind Senator Clinton was stupid when it was other people deriding women as lying, deluded simpletons, but now that it’s a feminist Obama supporter doing so, those inconvenient people need to be ridiculed as much as possible, and the easiest way to do so is to ensure your audience knows they’re all women.

But hold on to your hats, kids.  It gets better. Because she found one contribution, during one quarter, to McCain, all PUMAs are McCain ratfucking Republican operatives.  Never mind the ones who are life long feminists, who were harassed off DKos for their support for a Democratic candidate, never mind some of the most powerful voices in left blogistan for intersectionality in the feminist movement.  They don’t exist, if they do they are stupid.  This especially hurts coming from someone who has worked hard to carve a career out of the damned near impossible work of explaining to a reluctant world that women are real people who are not fucking stupid.  There are reasons not to support the Democratic nominee.  There are a lot of good, rational reasons not to support him.   There are good rational reasons to support and even like him, too, and since women are people who are generally (a) different and (b) still rational, it’s really not totally unreasonable to assume that some women will come to different conclusions than others.

For that matter, where the fuck was this outrage a year ago, when Obama so very seriously informed everyone that he’d get all her votes, but she wouldn’t get all of his - read “vote for me or my people walk.”  A candidate running for the Democratic nomination surely deserves more criticism for his outright embrace of a potential split in the party than do a group of private citizens.

For that matter, the PUMAs have done exactly what focus groups have spent generations wishing the American public would do.  They’ve explained what they believe in and what a candidate would need to do to gain their votes, if it’s possible at all (and for some of them it’s not, and guess what, that’s their decision to make, not anyone else’s).

And again, this exposes some fundamental problems between the “Obama candidacy” and the actual Obama candidacy.  The blogger in question slings around all kinds of loaded emotional language - again, from someone who’s spent years righteously howling into the wind that women are no more or less emotional than any other humanoid type creatures, and especially at the myth that women working in support of women’s causes have just had our feelings hurt, rather than having made reasonable decisions towards our actions, it’s both ironic and painful - to obfuscate any legitimate concern the PUMAs have, make it all about the individual’s actions rather than the collective injustice, and then dismiss those emotions as over the top craziness.  Shameful.   And It’s especially ironic coming in support of Obama’s candidacy.  He chose to run a campaign which appealed heavily to emotions.  That’s fine.  It’s not to say that I think he’s an empty suit (I don’t) or that I find him in any way intellectually lacking (again, I don’t).  It’s a morally neutral decision the campaign made in order to capitalize on the strengths of the given candidate.  That’s the game (the game he says he loathes, oh, how it pains him to do so ruthlessly and unscrupulously, but I digress).  But when people appropriately respond to an emotional campaign with emotion, it’s pretty crummy to try to bully them into supporting that campaign by telling them that their feelings are stoopid.

And if these Clinton supporters, as Obama supporters suggest, are at best tepid Democrats, or DINOs - aren't we supposed to think that's a good thing?  Wasn't Obama going to be the One that reached across the aisle or whatever to bring moderates and conservatives into the fold?  It's a good trait in his appeal to voters, but a pernicious one in hers?  Huh, there's a word for that, I can't quite reach for it.

And while Amanda and I were pecking away at our respective keyboards (hers more respected and well-known, but mine no less valid or feminist), Barack Obama was off proving himself hugely worthy of feminist criticism.  (As of this writing, Pandagon has reported on the Very Important Matter of Governor Crist’s engagement, but not on a major presidential candidate’s crass disgust for female human life.  And Pandagon used to be one of my favorite RJ advocacy blogs.)

Since I’ve started writing this post, the PUMA post has, apparently, “blown up.”  Well, no, not so much as the blogger’s erroneous assumptions were pointed out to be such, and she responded by writing another post about how stoopid and irrational PUMAs and all their filthy associates are.  Which is where the title of this post comes in.  A commenter quoted large portions of the post I wrote after the primaries,+ and other commenters responded by claiming that I’ve only been writing about politics since February (O RLY?), that I’m a member of the PUMA movement (which has actually appeared nowhere on this blog), and that it was my only post of substance or some such rot.  Yup.  Because I disagree with these commenters, I don’t exist and never have, and if I do, it’s only because I’m just too silly to understand big kid politics!

I know I shouldn’t care what some nonsense commenters on some blog I rarely even read any more had to say about me, and on a personal level, I’m ashamed to admit it did bother me, but relieved that it only lasted for a couple of minutes.  But this is part and parcel of some very problematic treatment of Clinton supporters in the Librul (TM) community, and especially at the hand of the Obama campaign.  Lump all dissenters into a group, turn that group irrelevant, and then everyone agrees with you!  See?  Unity!  Someone needs to hold Obama accountable for his unending sprint to the right.  Large numbers of people who supported him vocally during the primaries have decided that no criticism of Obama (no matter how much they disagree) is the way to go, or finding a way to blame someone else, or simply to pop up on threads all over Left Blogistan, Roe stick in hand.  All criticism is then dismissed as griping by emotional sour grapes Clinton supporters.  Neutralizing all criticism from the left won’t get Obama elected, it will just allow the criticism from the right to drown us out, and he’ll continue to run that way, and then people who claim they see no difference between Obama or McCain, or that they prefer McCain, will feel more and more vindicated, thus getting more vocal, and Obama will continue to lose lefty voters to McCain, McKinnon, or write-in candidates.  And using sexist stereotypes to do so - bitter, emotional, resentful - is sexist no matter who you are.  Voters are angry, and they don’t owe anyone anything.

Are there McCain operatives taking advantage of this situation for all it’s worth?  CLEARLY.  That’s politics, sweetie, if votes are up for grabs, you go for them.  It’s not any different than Obama’s outreach* to evangelicals skeptical of McCain.  It’s fucking politics.  But there are lots of lifelong Democrats who are gasping for air under the weight of betrayals small and large, and it’s mean and small and really not helpful to anyone except McCain to tell them that they don’t exist.

*Outreach:  OFB for “caving in at every opportunity.”

+Bunny, if you’re reading this, I can’t stress enough that I don’t blame you for the behavior on that thread; I’m quite flattered that you took the time to read and share the post.  This seems an appropriate time to mention that that post has gotten more attention than I’ve ever expected - thank you, everyone who read and linked and commented, I’m humbled and honored that you’ve found solidarity and solace in my words.

we fucking told you so.

  • Jul. 4th, 2008 at 12:40 AM
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“I hate to say I told you so” is, of course, a polite social fiction. Nobody hates to say I told you so, and if someone did actually hate to say I told you so, they’d keep their fucking mouth shut. I, personally, love being right.

But even I wish I wasn’t right about this.

This, in a nutshell, is everything frustrating about Barack Obama.

This is why Roe is not a threat anyone gets to make in this presidential election. This is a dangerous position to take. If I need to explain to someone that abortion is a constitutional right, and one as inviolable and necessary as any and all others, that someone is on the wrong fucking blog. I do not need to explain that nobody, and especially not some smarmy law professor, can always distinguish between mental and physical health. I do not need to explain that all Barack Obama needed to do was stay away from the subject, or tell the fucking truth and say that he’s not anyone’s fucking doctor, he could have actually done what the fauxgressive blogosphere swore up down and all around he was going to do and TAKE A STAND FOR SOMETHING, but instead he chose to announce to the AP that he literally does not give a damn if we live or die.  Which - make no fucking mistake - is exactly what this statement is.  A restriction on abortion is not just a statement that you think women are not human enough to be more than breeding vessels, it means that you think that women’s health and lives are an acceptable price for your comfortable knowledge that no one in the country is doing anything that makes you feel icky.

It’s not just that this statement buys into right wing frames about abortion. All that does is place reproductive justice in the realm of church and state, the Fourth Amendment, the Eighth Amendment, and liberalism itself - causes in which Obama does not believe, but the fauxgressive “left” has deluded itself into thinking that he does.

It’s that there is no position, no matter how extreme, towards which Senator Obama will not eagerly run, seeking a “middle ground.” He looks at politics not as a complex, multifaceted interplay of cultural mores, economic and geopolitical security needs, and social goals, but as a flat, one dimensional continuum that no matter how far or long he must run, no matter what he must sacrifice along the way, he must find the mythical center. Nothing is worth taking a stand for, not even the basic human rights of his children.

And it’s another way in which we can see that one of the OFB’s major charges against Senator Clinton - that she would do anything, no matter what principal it violated, to win - was merely a projection of Obama himself. This is not a burning statement of principle. This is a political ploy in order to continue the battle of the primaries. By the vaginal transitive property,* HRC=all women, and so any whining+by feminists (even feminists who support Obama, and folks, I really hope y’all stretched tonight, because you will be doing some backbends tomorrow) can safely be portrayed as sour grapes by Clinton supporters, thus keeping Senator Clinton in the equation and allowing Obama to continue in his role of Long-Suffering Male Beset by That Bitch Who Won’t Die.  This allows him to continue to navigate the gender issue as being “man versus evil woman” rather than “man versus manlier man.”  Buying into the tattered, ancient idea of “leadership=masculinity” is, my friends, the very definition of politics as usual, as it has been throughout what we now recognize as the canon of Western history.

Cue the asshole Obama supporters. Oooooh, he’s better than McCain, you know Clinton would be worse, plus you irrational bitches just need to learn that abortion rights aren’t just about you, you selfish bitch, wanting to live and shit, it’s about the BAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYBEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. Allow me to explain this in terms you will understand: shut the fuck up. You get to make this decision for me when I get to decide whether or not to spend the next ten months hacking off your shriveled sac with a dirty plastic knife.

Oh. And nice work, NARAL, you fuckers.

We fucking told you so.

*A complicated sociological theorum, in which one woman = all women, except in case of a positive trait.

+Technical term for pointing out the imminent violation of one’s own human rights, especially if one happens to be female.

Via.

ETA:  Pls see Liss.

Edited again, thanks to Kyra at Shakes for pointing this out:

Kyra:  Also, does anybody happen to know whether most depression/other mental-health-treating drugs are approved for use by pregnant women?


P:  In a lot of cases we don't know, because how the fuck can someone ethically do that study? (I've been on a lot of sleep drugs lately and so have been reading obsessively.) So not only is mental health no longer health, but you don't deserve treatment for it, little lady, 'cuz of the fetus we're forcing you to carry!

BUT ROOOOOOOOEEEEE! THE COOOUURRT!!

  • Jun. 26th, 2008 at 12:58 AM
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Today, the Roberts Court did the right thing, and limited the death penalty to cases where a victim dies.

Barack Obama disagrees. 

Let's be clear.  This may well be the most conservative SCOTUS there has been since Roosevelt had to ram through the New Goddamn Deal with a sledgehammer.  And Barack Obama doesn't think they support the death penalty enough.

Hope!  Change!  Unity!  NO RLY YOU GUIZE.

Oh, and hiding behind "state's rights" to justify gross violations of human rights is sooooo last century.  And yes, it is different than saying that federalism prevents aggressive federal action towards marriage equality, because that position (while I disagree with it) is at least defensible on the grounds that five of the Nine believe marriage is an issue of state law, whereas in this case, five of the Nine have decided that the Eighth Amendment takes precedence.  One position acknowledges an unfortunate reality, the other one stakes out a position against a progressive and correct reading of the Constitution. 

It's ironic.  I've spent my entire adult life feeling totally screwed by those few hundred Nader nuts in Florida who just FUCKING HATED BOTH PARTIES.  And now I feel quite a bit of sympathy.  I'm not really like them, though, I JUST WANT TO BE ABLE TO VOTE FOR A FUCKING DEMOCRAT.  More and more I'm with fellow Yellow Dog Anglachel.  Lower than that, ye shall not drag me.

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I can't leave you people alone for one second! THIS IS WHY WE CAN'T HAVE NICE THINGS!

Leaving aside my perpetual astonishment that the world, in fact, goes on when my internet goes down and I spend the weekend engrossed in third wave theory and Japanese feminist crime fiction, oh, sweeties, I didn't think anyone would actually pour a whole bottle of detergent into the dishwasher, but now you've gone and done it.



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As Riverdaughter pointed out so clearly, the guilt end of the bullying corralling convincing Clinton supporters into line is predicated on a very basic assumption - women are socialized to put others first, and that’s why they are so confident that their “McCain will do XYZ and it will be ALL YOUR FAULT” will work.  I mean, it must be our fault if something goes wrong.

Female assertiveness is assumed to be a bad thing. Not only is this the central point of much of the primary coverage (or the Obama campaign’s tactics against Clinton), it’s also the way in which the Democratic Party has gained its choke hold on single women’s votes.  Something else is always more important, girls, but in the meantime, LOOK AT THE BIG SCARY REPUBLICAN.  This is particularly the point behind the blog post taken apart so brilliantly here.

It’s also, nauseatingly, the point behind this post. (Disturbingly and surprisingly linked to with approval by Feministing.) I have a lot of problems with the VOTE FOR OBAMA OR ELSE argument, but this one, because it’s written by a liberal woman and apparently approved of by one of the more influential feminist voices on the intertubes, is particularly upsetting. First of all, it’s predicated on the Roe stick, which I find to be reprehensible. Secondly, of course, it relies on the assumption that to vote for a candidate means one approves of all of the policies of that candidate. Clinton supporters, no matter what, are weighing our second, third, and fourth choices, and (unlike many Obama supporters) were already supporting a candidate we acknowledged from the start was less than perfect.  We’re not going to be signing any loyalty oaths in the near future - if we agreed with McCain or Obama  on all of our most important issues, WE’D HAVE VOTED FOR MCCAIN OR OBAMA.  Since we didn’t, it’s pretty clear that we’re going to be compromising regardless - YES even if we vote Green or abstain from the top of the ballot - so this “loyalty oath” crap is trivializing of the complexity of our decisions.  If it were true that a vote for a candidate involved unquestioning endorsement of that candidate, and those poor fools really need such things written out for them, I’m more than willing to write up similarly infuriating loyalty oaths for female, feminist, working-class, rural, sick, older, queer, brown, partisan Democratic, and/or non-Christian Obama supporters. Point being not that those people shouldn’t vote for Obama, but that they are compromising on something that government can or should do for them with their support for him.

Oh, and cupcakes, aren’t our Clinton-supporter-stereotypes shifting with the winds! First Clinton’s base was made entirely of geriatric post-sexual DINOs, but now all of a sudden we are fecund young things, whose entire political involvement revolves around our baby-making-parts! We can barely keep them in control!  They were obviously lying when they said they wanted an experienced candidate!  After the eight-year Bush Administration clusterfuck, a reasonable person could IN NO WAY come to the conclusion that someone who's been in national politics for a while is the best choice to lead the national government!  I understand that in some cases, this was a pretext for racist voting.  But - just like lateness is sometimes a pretext for unjustified firing, and that's never defensible but sometimes a person's actually late all the time, in which case it's up to the boss - some people really were voting on experience.  Or confidence in national security issues.  Or any number of other issues.  The presumption of bad faith which is projected onto Clinton voters is a way to alienate this enormous base of people.  It's NOT the way to unify. 

Most importantly, though, is the snide condescension towards female voters - that women do not understand who we are voting for. I can’t speak to the original author, but I do know that Feministing has earned its place in blogland at least in part based on its righteous fury at the idea that women are silly, irrational actors who should just be patted on the head and told what’s best for us. And yet, here at least one of them is, doing just that. Those silly wimminz can’t possibly know what it’s like to have an abortion what John McCain stands for! Here’s a clue - if the media is right, and these women who proudly supported a female feminist candidate so energetically are willing to jump ship from Obama and the Democratic Party to the famously anti-woman McCain, then there's something seriously fucked up going on with Obama and/or the Democratic party.  And if these angry women (whether or not they even exist in significant numbers) are so important, then Obama and/or the Democratic party should damned well be listening if they actually want to win.  All the demonization of little old ladies in the world isn’t going to change that; in fact, all it does is locate a convenient scapegoat should the party lose in November - blame those irrational women! - and further excuse the unending trivialization of feminist issues within the party, not to mention absolve the fucked-up nomination process that got us a nominee who may well not have been our strongest GE contender. And it buys into the misogynist media narrative, which (now that the Dragon Lady is safely slayed, of course) even the media, in grudging and IQ-lite forms of course, is willing to admit is bullshit.

Feminist liberals can support Obama, remain in the Democratic party, and still fucking hold both accountable when they show signs of sell-out take women for granted bullshit.  Join in the HRC-voter scapegoating, and you’re (a) pushing us [further, for some women] away and (b) buying into the Blame Women First narrative of, oh, I don’t know, EVERYTHING ELSE that keeps our culture so fucking misogynist.  I’m trying to be better than that.  I’d like to think I’m not alone.

Oh.  And no, this post is not an endorsement or criticism of Obama, McCain, McKinney, or abstention.  It’s a criticism of an aspect of electoral politics which is bad for women, and is going to continue to be bad for women as long as we think it’s “funny” and refuse to criticize it.  However, if my smart-ass low-traffic blog is more convincing than your candidate’s millions of dollars and supporters, YOUR CANDIDATE DOESN’T DESERVE TO WIN.

AAAAAHHHH

  • May. 10th, 2008 at 3:51 PM
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Another funny, funny, FUNNY Fatal Attraction quip.  (H/t)

This time from an ELECTED REPRESENTATIVE.  A DEMOCRAT. 

"When asked about whether Clinton should drop out of the race on Fox 13's "Good Morning Memphis" program today, [U. S. Rep. Steve Cohen (D-Memphis)] said: "Glenn Close should have stayed in that tub."

Haaaaahahahaha, because that bitch wouldn't die, she should have just drowned so we don't have to shoot her!  See, how funny that is?  Don't you just feel inspired?!  FEEL THE UNITY, ASSHOLES!

Fuck him, fuck everyone who laughs at that joke, and fuck the DCCC when they give his ridiculous ass funding to run for re-election.

Yes, Virginia, this is about me too, and you too.

Open Letter

  • May. 7th, 2008 at 8:26 PM
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To:  The Estate of Eleanor Stegeberg
From:  [info]pocochina
Re:  Your Asshole Husband

I feel it is my personal and professional duty to inform you that decedent's husband is a sexist piece of crap, who should just shut the fuck up, for the good of the country and party.  Of course, I will hold him, and decedent, in my heart for all of my days as one inseparable unit, a two-headed anti-my-candidate monster, if you will, but that doesn't mean he has any right to be speaking in public like he was people and shit.  I mean, really, next they will be wanting the vote and everything. 

You're probably wondering, why am I writing this letter to you?  I mean, you're not him, you're a whole other person.  This estate may have had some influence over his decision, maybe, maybe not, but we don't know, so I'm going to talk to you.  As George has just taught me, you're not just responsible for his decisions, you are the appropriate person to whom to take my concerns. 

You might also be wondering, why have I chosen to write this in a public forum, on my livejournal, rather than appealing privately, by phone or letter, to either the estate or to Mr McGovern himself.  This could, after all, potentially be embarrassing to the party.  The press meme, after all, has been that the Democrats are eating each other alive, and a public betrayal which throws red meat to this idiotic meme can only increase this problem that the press and DNC have dreamed up.  It kind of looks like all I really want is attention and feedback from people who I am sure will agree with me, rather than something which could be beneficial to any actual convictions I may or may not be espousing.  Also, of course, the fact that all over the internet, people have been saying the exact same thing I am saying is in no way indicative of a skewed perception that my statements are Way More Important than theirs, which is why it's very important that I have this conversation with you.  Rather than him.  The person involved.  In a public forum.  However, my clear desire for attention is far, far less important than the fact that this guy needs to stop doing his freaking job the way he sees fit, and start doing it the way I see fit, which is not to do it at all.  Seriously.  Just make him shut up already.  Please. 

shame

  • Apr. 29th, 2008 at 3:13 PM
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Three times in the last six days, some asshole has, on national television, joked about the murder of Senator Hillary Rodham Clinton.  That's less than a week.  None of these fuckers have been fired or suspended.  Olbermann has grudgingly offered a half an apology.  That's all you have to do if you suggest killing someone, if that someone dares to walk and talk and go out in public while in possession of a vagina.  If anyone stumbles on a reporter, journalist, or Lefty Dood blogger who gives a raving shit whether or not a US Senator lives or is violently murdered, please let me know; in the meantime, I'm going to consider them all useless fucking hypocrites. 

Shame.  Shame.  Shame. 

Oh.  And also via Shakes, the people charged with protecting her from the lunatics who are hearing these jokes?  Are busy planting fucking nooses all over training centers.  They're also supposed to be protecting Barack Obama.  I don't have to be a supporter to point out that he absolutely deserves - and clearly needs - better protection than this. 

Shame. 

I'll be actually thinking and posting after my international law exam.  On which I want to do really well now, so I can have the option to get the fuck out of here.  Because if they're coming for Hillary, they're coming for me too.

ETA (bumping this up from comments, thanks [info]celiloquy for prodding me to refine my thoughts):  If some brown foreign person publicly laughed at the idea the murder of a senator, we would call it terrorism. But since it's white Americans talking about HRC, it's a joke.

Denziens of Feministing: keep your dresses

  • Apr. 27th, 2008 at 1:21 PM
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So last night on my study break (a half an hour before I got kicked out of the library, natch) I read this post  by Vanessa at Feministing about some douchebag at the NYT who thinks it's so sad that the ladies can wear bloomers and trousers these days and walk around like they was people, becausee he prefers to leer at his sex objects in dresses.  Vanessa, unsurprisingly, does an excellent takedown, so I won't repeat it here.  But it felt, interestingly, really applicable to me yesterday.  I only left the campus buildings once yesterday (SO SAD) in everyday study gear:  hoodie, gaucho pants, imitation Adidas sandals, iPod and fuck-off face both turned up - and the fucking public safety officer ran across the street to flag me down.  Now, something you have to understand about my campus, it's tiny, there aren't a lot of public safety officers, and they know us all by the end of our first years.   So I felt pretty comfortable saying hi when he caught up with me.  And then he subjected me to a seriously, three and a half minute talk about "there was someone on the crosswalk yesterday, you know?  When you were walking by?  You know?  And you looked good, real good, yeah?"  And here he looked for my....I don't know.  Slavering gratitude, I suppose?  And I said, thanks, I had an interview, and walked faster, and the asshole runs to catch up with me.  "I just want you to know, people notice, you know, and you looked real good and I just want you to know blah blah blah," and then when I'm practically at the library door he wishes me luck with my studies.  Now, I know he was trying to be nice. 

If it's me specifically, I don't know what it is about me that makes men think I "need" compliments, so much that they have to chase me around campus to make sure that the message gets through.  I knew I looked hot in my suit. 

But y'see, it sucks enough to do interviews.  And the suit aspect of it particularly sucks for me.  I'm about the exact size of the average American woman, which is a little bigger than most of us in our 20's, with a high but distinct waist and huge hips, shoulders, and boobs.  Suit-wearing doesn't hide my femaleness, it highlights it, and my only nice shoes are very high heels.  So professional dress for me is not easy.  I know women of all shapes and sizes have trouble with "professional" dress and the game is rigged against all of us.  But it's my one suit.  And my only nice shoes.  So that's what I'll be thinking about next time I have to look professional. 

Anyway, I might have been able to say something, but then again, he's the public safety officer, so if God forbid something awful does happen to me on or near campus, I might need his help.  So consider this my hollaback, asshole.  Don't tell the fucking students how much fun it was to leer at us.

ETA:  Apperantly, the same thing happened to my friend Y.  Y is also curvy and dark haired, like myself, but she is also a creature of supernatural beauty.  Christ.  How many students is this asshole doing this too?

Also, this is mushy, but there's no such thing as thread derail here, if chatting about our bodies helps us move around  in the world in them a little better...derail away, y'know?

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  • Apr. 23rd, 2008 at 10:13 PM
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Oh my God. 

I didn't want to do this. 

I really, really, REALLY didn't. 

But I'm so fucking pissed off about it that I just CAN'T not talk about it any more.  Linda Hirshman is fucking right.  Okay, she's not totally right, but she's talking about something important that nobody fucking wants to hear.  I know it would be totally cool to just focus on the criticisms and why she is a total bitch and we hate her and don't want to sit with her in the cafeteria, I am going to DARE TO AGREE.  I am not saying there are no critiques of Hirshman that can be made, I am not saying there are no valid critiques of the second wave.  But I am calling bullshit  on some of my fellow young people. 

Yes.  Looking at the demographics, younger women are slightly more likely to vote for Senator Obama, older women are slightly more likely to vote for Senator Clinton.  And what I see here, in the discussion of the campaign - from feminists, non-feminists, and anti-feminists - is another -ism that nobody wants to talk about.  AGEISM.  Ageism is wrong too, assholes.  If you assume that an older woman is myopic and out of touch and selfish, but you, the younger woman, are de facto more aware of intersectionality or are Magically Above Vagina Voting, that's not just non-feminist, it's also ageist, and it ignores the reality that women are punished more for daring to age - YOU KNOW, THE WAY LIVING BEINGS DO - than men are.  When you think of being "scolded by [your] mother," (I seriously wish I were making that gem up, and yes, it's from a feminist writer who thought this ageist, sizeist, anti-feminist cartoon was a real freaking laugh riot) when Senator Clinton goes off on one of her cranky bad-day-at-work rants about getting people health care or some shit, that is part of a systemic framework that punishes women for being adults, and that connects adult women with that which we do not like about the domestic sphere.   I, for one, like older women, and in fact hope to be one some day. 

Maybe I am really lucky.  My mom's neither a feminist nor a HRC supporter.  I'm the Ms. reader in the house, not her.  So I get to feel all warm and fuzzy and rebel-y voting for Hillary.  Hell, my being a Democrat is upsetting enough to my parents.  I saw this interview that LH talks about in the article.  "In an interview on PBS's NOW with Maria Hinojosa*, Ms. magazine founding editor Letty Cotton Pogrebin and her Obama-supporting author daughter, Abigail, discussed their personal quarrel over the election."  The daughter spit all over the camera for twenty freaking minutes about how - I SWEAR TO GOD I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP - her mother's feminist movement was "only about abortion" and younger women "care about more things."  I'm lucky I didn't break the fucking treadmill.  How could anyone possibly be so ignorant about the accomplishments of the second wave of feminism?  By purposeful ignorance, that's how.  Again, I'm not saying there are no valid critiques to be made, I'm saying that disappearing the work those women did and are still doing is bullshit.

And Robin Morgan's article was, yes, problematic because comparing racism to sexism is impossible, and for a lot of women, unnecessary because they live both.  But the "some younger feminists women" stuff should have a huge freaking "IF THE SHOE DOESN'T FIT, DON'T FUCKING WEAR IT" neon fucking flashing border around it.  I could have very easily taken offense - I am a younger feminist, and dammit, I did vote for Clinton - but I could tell that she was not talking about women who honestly and in good faith consider their preferences for one candidate or another.  She was talking, in a nutshell, about some - NOT ALL - young women who see rejection of Senator Clinton as a way to show that they are So Over That Feminism Crap Already.  "I'm not a feminist, but...." has become "I mean, I'm a woman and I didn't vote for her."  It is a convenient way to make oneself non-threatening to a dude-dominated social scene.

And JESUS MARY AND JOSEPH.  This "change" and "old politics versus new politics" and "same old, same old" crap?  ARE AGEIST AND ANTI-FEMINIST.  I don't want to hear one more fucking word of defense for it.  They are key phrases for the Obama campaign for fucking good reasons.  (Hey, I never said they were dumb.  Wrong, yeah, but not dumb.) Youth is a valued position in our society, and age is not.  Partially, this is our capitalist standard of physical attractiveness, and partially of course, it's the fear of death - if we act young, we are young, we won't die.  Therefore, the Obama campaign is reminding us that as far as age goes, he has more privilege than her.  It's not quite as heavy-handed as "periodically feeling down," but it's there.  And this "young and attractive" versus "old and.....well, old" is especially pernicious because women are judged more than men are based on our physical appearance, and this is especially true of Senator Clinton, paradoxically,  because she's performing work outside of her gender role, and that's how our society punishes powerful women. 

More importantly though, in the context of politics, age means something different for women than it does for men, because it is new for women to be in politics.  When we get old-skool on our masculine-coded politics, we think of the Founding Fathers in their boots and wigs.  When we get old-skool on our feminine-coded politics, we draw a blank.  Because there is no such thing.  But rather than face that fact, and grasp that we are living in an era where that is changing, we fill that blank in with older women, who are explicitly not a privileged group in our society.  We code older women especially as grandmas baking cookies.  Being a grandma who bakes cookies is a totally awesome and valid thing to be, and certainly not dispositive of many other identity components - again, I love my grandma, she makes great cookies, and some day I might be a cookie-baking grandma myself.  But we correlate age in women as belonging to a previous generation, one in which women weren't demanding to actually be taken seriously and stuff.  We consider it as a time of unpaid labor - like, I don't know, baking cookies for someone because you love them and not because you're going to get money (which in our society connotes financial independence and thus personal autonomy) or going on state visits because of your husband's job.  We pretend this hypothetical grandma didn't want to be taken seriously so that we don't have to take her seriously.  Hillary Clinton demands to be taken seriously - maybe we shouldn't have taken those cookies for granted.  "Old politics" doesn't just connote smoke-filled rooms, when you're talking about a woman.  It also connotes "hag" and "crone" and "witch" and all of the other terrible thoughts about humanity that we project onto older women. 

Now, it's a smart campaign strategy.  But for feminists to dismiss the older women who call out the bullshit because they are older - LIKE DISMISSING FEMINIST CONCERNS WHEN THEY COME FROM A WOMAN - is also bullshit. 

Don't tell Mom I said this, but sometimes she really has a point, you know? 

(For the record - I do find the ageism directed at Senator McCain to be reprehensible as well.  If HRC were 72, you're damned right I would still have voted for her.  And I expect Senator McCain's supporters to do the same.  It's not as loaded with him because he's a man and this country has a tradition of voting for old white men, but it's still ageist.  Shit, my great-grandma lived to be 105, let's not be acting all like we're voting in his VP, okay?)

Deep Thought.

  • Apr. 16th, 2008 at 12:04 AM
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God, guns, and xenophobia really are the deciding factors for those poor rubes in small towns, and that's why Pennsylvania (with nearly half of its twelve million voters in the Philadelphia metro area alone) is trending Clinton.

This explains the devastating losses Senator Obama suffered in low-density population states like Alaska, Wyoming, and North Dakota, and also highlights his clear lead in the three most densely populated (and also among the most wealthy and highly educated) states in the country, New Jersey, Rhode Island, and Massachusetts

Oh.  Wait. 

Way to insult your own voters.

Or to just have made a really fucking stupid generalization which could be easily refuted.  How did nobody call him on that? How?  Look, I don't think hate and a desire for a heavily-armed theocracy are driving small-town Democrats.  If those are someone's priorities, that person is not voting for a Democrat, ever.  But if I were a candidate for national office with any sense of irony and self-awareness making a legitimacy argument based at least in part on rural states, I sure as fuck wouldn't insinuate the things that he did about the voters in those very states.

And wasn't it just a fucking nice touch that one of those small towns full of haters is the one where teeny Hillary Rodham spent part of her childhood?  Nice.  Really, really classy.  

(I hope, though doubt, that this will be my last word on classism-is-the-new-pink-gate.)

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what's the matter with classism?

  • Apr. 12th, 2008 at 6:11 PM
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So we all know about this bullshit, right?  We all up to speed?  Good. 

I went looking for context.  I was hoping there was a shitty question involved.  As always, though, the candidate of Hope (TM) let me down.  Listen up, so-called liberals, I was reading Thomas Frank when you were all creaming your boy-panties over the Power of the Netrootz and Democracy for America.  This was not the "What's the Matter with Kansas?" argument.  What's the Matter with Kansas was asking why people vote against their own economic interests, leading working-class rural people to vote Republican even when it means big business gets a break and the rural poor get screwed.  Barack Obama was talking about the Pennsylvania primary.  You know, the one with all Democrats.  (Well, supposedly.)   He summarily discounted the possibility that the Pennsylvania Democrats could, in choosing the other Democrat, be voting vehemently in their own rational best-interest, and assumed that a vote for someone other than him was due to misplaced "bitterness," to religiosity and xenophobia.  A vote for Clinton may very well be in the best interests of the working-class voter.  Poor people are not stupid.  Assuming they are xenophobic, that they are religious at all or that their faith is stupid or intolerant, is bullshit.  In this statement, he not only handed the Republican party a fucking gold mine (so that the phenomenon Frank was actually talking about can continue, conservatism without end, amen) but he:

(a) ignored that the Clinton campaign actually exists
(b) insinuated that those of us who have voted for her are not Democrats
(c) flat-out stated that a vote for anyone but him is irrational
(d) refused to grant the existence of Clinton's many policies which are more beneficial than McCain's, or his own, to the working class
(e) either exempted his own religious convictions from the bitterness and irrationality of the rural poor (because religious exceptionalism is so hot right now) or presented himself as a cynical nonbeliever who plays a Christian on TV to get votes.

This is insulting.  It is classist and it is short-sighted.  It was not manufactured by that machiavellian bitch Hillary Clinton - in fact, by addressing it, she performed a vital service to the party, pointing out that this shallow and classist group of assumptions are not the liberal or progressive platform.   It was not manufactured by John McCain, but I think we all know that the RNC is producing some ads right now and I think we all know what they say.  Conflating the villification of half the Democratic party with Frank's complex sociological argument is irresponsible, and it is flat-out wrong.  This will not go away, and moreover, it should not go away, and everyone excusing political stupidity and blatant classism should be seriously reassessing their priorities. 

let me clear my throat

  • Apr. 12th, 2008 at 1:21 AM
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So there's this fabulous/hateful meme that's been going around for a while - probably, in fact, certainly since before I began blogging - that makes the assumption that Clinton supporters are not anti-war.  In fact it turns into a pretty ugly assumption that the superior non-Clinton supporter knows all about the Clinton supporter, who she is, and why she is wrong about everything.

Fuck you.  You will not erase me.

EAT SHIT, OLBERMANN

  • Apr. 11th, 2008 at 7:47 PM
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I hope you fucking eat shit and choke on it. 

For those lucky enough to not be aware, Keith Olbermann decided to name Sir Elton John on his "worst person in the world" list because John decided to point out the glaringly self-evident fact that there is misogyny in this country that has a negative impact on Senator Clinton's campaign. 

Keith, you sorry misogynist fuck? 

He wasn't talking about everyone in this country, or even everyone who voted for Obama.  As everyone who passed kindergarten knows, "some" is not the same as "all."

He was talking about you.


(Via Shakes, video here if you're brave.)

we knew he could do it, ladies and gents!

  • Apr. 8th, 2008 at 12:53 AM
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Today's All-High Bad-Ass Dick-Swingin' Motherfucker is, in a long-awated performance:  Matthew Yglesias! 

Folks, I'm going to mention intimate partner violence in this post, so please, trigger warning.

they just keep comin'

  • Mar. 25th, 2008 at 10:27 PM
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Today's All-High Badass Dick-Swingin' Motherfucker, in a surprise upset* is Jeff Fecke!

a twofer!

  • Mar. 23rd, 2008 at 2:47 PM
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This weekend's All-High Badass Dick-Swingin' Motherfucker:  MARK HALPERIN!  Mark, your momma must be so proud.

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I don't know where this idiot meme got started, (maybe here) but I want to do a Logic Check. 

Ezra the All-High Badass Dick-Swingin' Motherfucker* Says:

....Family and Medical Leave Act, another product of the Dodd-Kennedy duo which Clinton takes credit for, had nothing to do with her.

Nothing to do with her!  Them's fightin' words!  Silly Hillary, making things up as usual! 

Her site talks abut her experience "Helping to pass the Family and Medical Leave Act,"


Helping?  If you think "helping" is the same as "taking credit," one (or more) of those words does not mean what you think it means.  "Helping" implies an ancillary part of a group effort, in fact, in context, it's the exact opposite of "taking credit," which implies leadership or sole responsibility.  Helping?!  Why, you'd think from that regal language that Queen Hillary Spaketh, and lo, it was so!  Where does she get off?  Or, you'd think that maybe she was part of a huge, concerted effort on an important issue that affected the entire fucking country

but her newly released records show that she never held a meeting or hearing on the bill.

And, as we all know, everything she ever did in six decades was contained in a day planner which spans eight years.  She sprang from the head of Zeus as a full-grown, headband-wearin' First Lady!  It's almost like magic!  And you know what else, I like HRC and I didn't read through the whole fucking thing.  So points for that. 

And given that Bill Clinton signed the FMLA 10 days after he entered office, it's a bit hard to see what role she could have played.

I am going to use my wild, active imagination here, and my KILLER FUCKING RESEARCH SKILLZ, and come up with a theory.  How in God's name could a prominent Democrat, someone who was twice named one of the 100 most influential lawyers in America, who sat on the board of the Children's Defense Fund, and who worked on the Committee of Women in the Profession of some tiny little unknown organization (by which I mean the American Bar Association, which is KIND OF A BIG DEAL) have anything to do with the Family and Medical Leave Act?  I'm RACKING MY GODDAMN BRAIN.  No way she could have met with committees, or provided studies, or worked with representatives and senators from Arkansas or neighboring southern states to try to convince them to vote for it.  I CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING.  AND I GAVE IT LIKE A WHOLE MINUTE AND A HALF.  She must be a lying-ass motherfucker.

I'm not saying she did any of those things.  I don't know, I wasn't there, I was busy reading about the Sweet Valley Twins or some shit.**  But it's not "hard to see" how she would have been involved, unless you assume that the only thing she ever did was be the First Lady, which is not true.   It makes perfect fucking sense that she would have been involved.  So to imply that she's a random-ass liar, based just on her day planner from the time of the Clinton Administration, is to directly ignore all the work in her life from before that time period.  It's a little thing, really, in the scope of all the crap that gets thrown at Senator Clinton, but it's emblematic of the desire so many people seem to have, which is to take everything she says or does and twist it into a self-aggrandizing lie.  I'm all for skepticism when it comes to elected officials, but jumping straight to accusations of lies and credit-stealing, admittedly based on the entries in ten days of a fucking day planner, isn't skepticism, it's silliness. 

*Yes, I'm aware that he's far from the worst.   But it caught my eye and pissed me off.

**Shut up, I was in first grade.  I stole it from my cousins because I wanted a chapter book for myself.

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